One intervention that has been shown to improve our relationships with ourselves and others is mindfulness. Mindfulness can assist you in developing self-awareness and insight in addition to aiding in the development of healthier relationships. Being able to build and sustain healthy relationships is a key tenet of recovery from addiction.
Mindfulness aims to teach you how to experience emotions without being overwhelmed by them, allowing you to return to a calm state more quickly after experiencing distress. This process allows you to utilize coping skills instead of resorting back to substances. Being in the moment and being able to accept emotions as they arise, process them, and respond appropriately are all components of the mindfulness perspective and are all important to the recovery process.
Mindfulness can also help you learn how to process and understand your negative childhood experiences, put those experiences into perspective, allow positive relationships to form, and eventually lead to greater self-acceptance and self-understanding. Self-acceptance and self-understanding are typically not present in active addiction. These concepts are important to develop in order to come to terms with the past and move forward with a new perspective on ourselves and on our lives.
Mindfulness has also been shown to reduce stress, anxiety, and depression, all of which are common in early recovery. During active addiction the tendency is to react instead of respond. Mindfulness aims to help you respond instead of reacting through distress tolerance, being in the moment, and assists you in gaining capabilities for awareness and compassion - all of which foster healthy, secure relationships in recovery.
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