The Bad News About Bad Relationships

By The Valor Team
Friday, June 12, 2020 at 2:07 pm in
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A bad relationship can be far worse than single life. It is not worth jeopardizing your wellness and stability to be in a non-supportive or otherwise toxic relationship.

Sure, there may be times when you feel like you really don't want to be alone, and the isolation of the pandemic may have made that feeling more intense. But if you’re in recovery from a substance use disorder, staying away from bad relationships is more important than ever. You have done all the hard work of pursuing healing, and it would be tragic to wreck your progress through an unhealthy relationship.

How to recognize that you are in a bad relationship? Well, if your partner harms you physically in any way or engages in verbal or emotional abuse, this is an obvious sign that you are in a bad relationship. Here are some more subtle signs.

  • You feel pressure to perform, change, or conform in certain ways to gain that person’s approval
  • Your partner is unkind or dismissive of the people who have supported and encouraged your recovery
  • Your partner takes you away from your support systems
  • Your partner makes you feel bad for not engaging in the behaviors he or she does
  • Your family and friends say that this person is not good you and they are concerned for your health and recovery
  • You make excuses for your partner’s behavior
  • You feel yourself slipping back into old habits in order to cope with your feelings

While you may not like being single, there are many reasons why a bad relationship is simply not better than no relationship. Unhealthy relationships will take their toll, dragging you down physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. Why risk all that you’ve worked for when feelings of loneliness will pass? If you have already come this far, you owe it to yourself to get into a healthy, rewarding relationship, even if it takes time and patience.

Healthy relationships are founded on trust, honesty, communication, and commitment, and happiness is often a byproduct of those things. When you’re in a healthy relationship, you will be satisfied instead of doubtful, you can share discomfort and pain together and still be happy, and you can encourage each other and move toward being your best selves.

A great partner allows you to be yourself, but also challenges you to grow and reach your potential. He or she takes care of you, believes in you, and is always on your team. When you feel safe and cared for, you are much more likely to invest in yourself, pursue your goals, and stay in recovery.

On the other hand, instability, emotional extremes, and regular breaches of trust can wear down your confidence and willpower. When you have to endure constant highs and lows, it can bring stress and possibly trigger a relapse. 

It is not worth your wellness to be with someone who is going to jeopardize your personal stability and everything you’ve worked for.

If you or someone you love needs help, give our team a call today at 330-330-8777.